🌿 What Healing Looks Like in My 40s (vs. My 20s)

Posted in The Wellness Den | May 19, 2025

Healing in your 20s is all about “fixing.”

Healing in your 40s? It’s about understanding.

In my 20s, I thought healing meant solving every problem, proving I was strong, bouncing back fast, and never letting anyone see me struggle.

Now, in my late 40s, healing looks a whole lot different.

It’s softer. Slower. Wiser. Kinder.

It’s less about forcing a glow-up—and more about coming home to myself.

✨ Healing in My 20s Looked Like:

Pretending I was fine (even when I wasn’t)
Numbing with distractions, overwork, or people-pleasing
Trying to be “low-maintenance” at the expense of my needs
Seeing rest as weakness
Constantly chasing a version of “better”

I wore burnout like a badge of honor. I didn’t set boundaries—I barely knew what they were.

And when my body or heart gave out, I blamed myself.

🌿 Healing in My 40s Looks Like:

Letting people see me—even in the messy moments
Saying no without guilt
Prioritizing rest, routines, and real nourishment
Slowing down and listening to my nervous system
Letting go of hustle culture and honoring my actual energy

Now, I view healing as an everyday relationship with my body, mind, and spirit—not a destination I have to reach by a certain age.

It’s CBD in my wellness routine, scalp oiling at night, deep sleep when I can get it, and taking quiet walks with my dogs without my phone.

It’s unfollowing people who make me feel “less than.”

It’s choosing foods that support my body instead of punish it.

It’s knowing when to show up—and when to log off.

💛 The Biggest Shift? Compassion.

I don’t beat myself up when I fall out of rhythm anymore.

I notice. I breathe. I begin again.

Healing now is layered and sacred and still ongoing—but it’s rooted in love, not perfection.

And while my 20s were all about surviving…

My 40s are about thriving—in a way that feels real.

📬 If You’re In Your 40s and Still Healing…

You’re not behind.

You’re not “too late.”

You’re simply becoming more you—and that is beautiful.

Every step you take, even the quiet ones, matters.

And I’m cheering you on through every phase.

Let’s keep healing—together.

Come find me on Instagram at @waiting.4.sunshine for more wellness, mindset, and real-life encouragement for women who are doing the work without losing themselves in the process. 💛

With grace,

Heather

Waiting 4 Sunshine

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